Az nli wrote:Sorry to hear about your loss Stooo. I recall your kind words to me earlier in the year. I wish you as peaceful a transition as is possible over the next few months - go easy on yourself and give yourself permission to fall.
Stooo wrote:Dimples wrote:Terribly sorry to hear your sad news about your Mum, Stooo. I know she had been poorly for a long time but this must still be very hard for you and your entire family. X
Yeah it was a bit of a bastard, this time last week after they had administered morphine and ditched the breath mask, she was so dry. Just a gentle blow of oxygen and some peace after the hell of the last four days.
OHW wrote:Sorry for your loss Stoo - a sad time for you.
I've been kept busy recently with my Step Dad, he has Altzheimers and has deteriorated a lot over the past weeks. It's so sad to lose such a vibrant talented man to this awful disease, he has become a shuffling old man with no memory. My Mum is doing everything for him at the minute, as he is clinging on to his last bit of dignity and refuses help from anyone else. He lets me help out a little, but I'm kept busy by doing lots of stuff for my Mum, so that she can spend time with him and not get too exhausted herself. Between spending time at their house (just up the road from me) and working every morning, and looking after my toddler Grandson in the afternoons while his Mum is at work ... I haven't had much energy or oomph for posting in forums or facebook.
megaera wrote:Sorry to hear about your mum stooo x
Abs wrote:I've just read, so sorry to hear, my condolences.
OHW wrote:Sorry for your loss Stoo - a sad time for you.
I've been kept busy recently with my Step Dad, he has Altzheimers and has deteriorated a lot over the past weeks. It's so sad to lose such a vibrant talented man to this awful disease, he has become a shuffling old man with no memory. My Mum is doing everything for him at the minute, as he is clinging on to his last bit of dignity and refuses help from anyone else. He lets me help out a little, but I'm kept busy by doing lots of stuff for my Mum, so that she can spend time with him and not get too exhausted herself. Between spending time at their house (just up the road from me) and working every morning, and looking after my toddler Grandson in the afternoons while his Mum is at work ... I haven't had much energy or oomph for posting in forums or facebook.
Random wrote:OHW wrote:Sorry for your loss Stoo - a sad time for you.
I've been kept busy recently with my Step Dad, he has Altzheimers and has deteriorated a lot over the past weeks. It's so sad to lose such a vibrant talented man to this awful disease, he has become a shuffling old man with no memory. My Mum is doing everything for him at the minute, as he is clinging on to his last bit of dignity and refuses help from anyone else. He lets me help out a little, but I'm kept busy by doing lots of stuff for my Mum, so that she can spend time with him and not get too exhausted herself. Between spending time at their house (just up the road from me) and working every morning, and looking after my toddler Grandson in the afternoons while his Mum is at work ... I haven't had much energy or oomph for posting in forums or facebook.
Although deterioration is the nature of Alzheimer's, a sudden change can indicate a water infection, constipation or other oncoming illness. Is it possible for you to check his water? Also don't be offended if he doesn't want your help. Encouraging him to do as much for himself as he can and supporting him with that will enable him to keep his dignity. It is difficult for family to understand but just because they have the disease does not mean they are not still in there. They are. I've worked with dementia for a few years and we see little miracles all the time, don't ever presume he doesn't understand and do not talk about his illness In font of him.
Good luck. I would advise checking his water and encouraging fluids. Try to aim for 200ml every hour, also rotate from hot to cold drinks because if he is only having hot tea and coffee that could dehydrate him.
You play CDs from his era, or just try to find fun activities he might engage in. Surrounding are very important, and they can get agitated if the temperature is too hot or cold, lighting too bright or dim, calming smells like lavendar or any other smells that trigger happy memories are good for mood.
Condolences to you too stoo.
Kat wrote:So sorry stoo .I've just seen this thread .cyber hugs to you x
Stooo wrote:Random wrote:OHW wrote:Sorry for your loss Stoo - a sad time for you.
I've been kept busy recently with my Step Dad, he has Altzheimers and has deteriorated a lot over the past weeks. It's so sad to lose such a vibrant talented man to this awful disease, he has become a shuffling old man with no memory. My Mum is doing everything for him at the minute, as he is clinging on to his last bit of dignity and refuses help from anyone else. He lets me help out a little, but I'm kept busy by doing lots of stuff for my Mum, so that she can spend time with him and not get too exhausted herself. Between spending time at their house (just up the road from me) and working every morning, and looking after my toddler Grandson in the afternoons while his Mum is at work ... I haven't had much energy or oomph for posting in forums or facebook.
Although deterioration is the nature of Alzheimer's, a sudden change can indicate a water infection, constipation or other oncoming illness. Is it possible for you to check his water? Also don't be offended if he doesn't want your help. Encouraging him to do as much for himself as he can and supporting him with that will enable him to keep his dignity. It is difficult for family to understand but just because they have the disease does not mean they are not still in there. They are. I've worked with dementia for a few years and we see little miracles all the time, don't ever presume he doesn't understand and do not talk about his illness In font of him.
Good luck. I would advise checking his water and encouraging fluids. Try to aim for 200ml every hour, also rotate from hot to cold drinks because if he is only having hot tea and coffee that could dehydrate him.
You play CDs from his era, or just try to find fun activities he might engage in. Surrounding are very important, and they can get agitated if the temperature is too hot or cold, lighting too bright or dim, calming smells like lavendar or any other smells that trigger happy memories are good for mood.
Condolences to you too stoo.
Thank you Random. I heard about an interesting programme the other day about poetry therapy for those with Alzheimer's. Because the short term memory has gone along with self confidence, reciting poems even childrens ones give periods of lucidity for sufferers.
http://www.memorycareliving.com/blog/po ... sufferers/
Stooo wrote:Abs wrote:I've just read, so sorry to hear, my condolences.
The funeral service was on Wednesday and it went very well thank you Abs.
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