Castillo wrote:That, or the idea that men masturbating is somehow inherently shameful. Like the dichotomy of sex toys - women who use vibrators are empowered and fun, men who use fleshlights are dirty perverted loners. Which brings us round to how acceptable misandry is in society. Often perpertrated by 'alpha' men too
Oh, I do like these sort of discussions. We had an interesting one on the DS thread for a while, but I think some of the regulars didn't like the divergence away from the usual topics.
That's the point I was (trying) to make earlier - it's different when women wank. Is it misandry? Possibly. But I also think you have to consider some of the engrained attitudes towards sex (and I agree with you about it being perpetrated by 'alpha males' too - it is, often in behaviour) that somehow sex is intrinsic to men and not women: men can, and should, go out and get sex whenever and wherever they feel like it. Because that's what "men do" - they "sew their wild oats", knock up some notches on the bedpost and to do otherwise is a failure. But it's that same kind of attitude that perpetuated this nonsense idea that somehow husbands have a 'right to sex' from their wives, and that men could - and should - take mistresses if she failed to do so. But women shouldn't: women shouldn't go out looking for sex, because that would make a woman a slag, slapper, etc. No, it's far better that a woman stay at home and fuck themselves silly with a variety of sex toys.
There is of course some truth in the old stereotype that men think and search out sex more than women, at least according to various studies. But ingrained in there is still this idea of the woman being either the 'dutiful virgin' or the 'iniquitous whore'. And a 'whore' is a lot more virginal when she's at home battering her Bakewell with a vibrator. The stigma that exists for men wanking exists for women fucking casually - it's not as evident as it once was in the West - but it's still there, lingering.